Luiza Ionescu's blog - Ladylike: Don't wash your dirty laundry in public!

We all mention in our CV that we are team players( although team player/people person/client
friendly are some of the words that should not be on our CV but we will talk about this in another post).

But are we really team players in real life, especially when it comes to our romantic relationship?

The other day, my boyfriend and I went to visit another couple. Our discussion was interrupted from time to time by bitter remarks or teasing ones. It all started when she started looking for a paper that she would need the following day. When she could not find it, her boyfriend started getting pretty mad and called her disorganized and careless. The evening continued with irony and sarcasm as guests at our table. The discussion deviated to other things that obviously bothered them but they probably did not have the opportunity to discuss them by themselves so they had to spill the beans that evening. Lucky us!

Needless to say, I felt quite uncomfortable the whole time and didn't really know what to say, but it got me thinking that it is never OK to wash our dirty laundry in public.
I also remembered that scene from Desperate Housewives when Bree acusses her husband, Rex of
calling Gabrielle the most beautiful woman he has ever seen in front of everybody.Personally, I really felt for her.

On the other hand, I really like couples who tease each other in an innocent way and make everybody envy them for making such a cute couple. You know what I mean. You can tell they are a team and support each other.
I am not saying these couples who argue a lot in public are not actually happy together, maybe they are, who knows, it is just that I don't get how come they do not realize it is wrong to get the courage to say what really bothers you only when you have a public paying attention to you. I also wonder, if they are so unsatisfied about certain things that they can't even forget about them when they are with friends, how can they live with them every day? Also, if they argue like that in public, I do not want to know how they fight when they are all alone, supposing they actually kept a minimum of respect for each other in public. You can't take back words. Hurtful ones sometimes turn to scars.
You can read more about how in a relationship 1+1=1 here.

What do you girls think? Do you know any couples that are not very private about their relationship, that seem to be tired of each other?

2 comments:

KittyDecember 28, 2012 at 3:34 PM
Si eu merg pe ideea ca in public nu trebuie sa arati ca te deranjeaza ceva. Ma rog, eu asa sunt in general nu doar cand vine vorba de relatii. Dar cu atat mai mult, cand esti intr-o relatie toate problemele ti le discuti in privat, that's the elegant way of dealing with emotional stuff :)
LuizaDecember 28, 2012 at 9:30 PM
Da,sa nu mai vorbim cand unele fete isi barfesc iubitul pe la prietene. chiar mi se pare urat.